Sunday, Church, Earthquakes, etc.

Good evening.

It's been a quiet day punctuated by tiny earthquakes emanating from Brawley, CA, several hundred miles to our east.  We can feel them, but just a few--the bigger ones, I guess.

Church was good.  Can it be otherwise?  At the forum, three couples were on the griddle, telling us about their relationships and how they lasted many years.  The youngest relationship was 33 years old, and the longest lasting fifty.  I was struck at how different the three couples were, and yet how we all seem to have almost the same problems.

One of the couples was a gay couple and they seemed to have worked out their problems very well.  One of them is a doctor, the other a nurse, and they were both outgoing and funny.  They never go to sleep angry or fighting. They work it out efore calling it a night.  They never employ the Silent Treatment on each other.

The two man/woman couples were both open and honest with their problems and with their solutions.  I can't imagine Theo and I going onto such a stage: not because I couldn't but because he would not ever do such a thing.  There was no time for Q and A, which was perhaps lucky though being Episcopalians we are all too polite to ask awkward questions.

I still go with what I 've said:  The secret to a long marriage is a short memory.  The more you can forget the more you won't resent, and you won't hold grudges because the older you get the harder it is to remember what they were about anyway.

YAZZYBEL